There are plenty of other things to post about without attacking someone’s lifestyle, politics, disability or religion. I’ve seen so much ugliness online lately that I think I’ve reached my limit.
There are many things about me and mine that are “unconventional.” I’m sure some people would have lots to say. I guess there comes a time when we all have to decide to accept the ugliness into our daily lives and let it slowly eat away at us – or do what we can to eliminate it.
That’s how I feel about people using the “R” word. I battled myself about “getting involved.” If someone uses it in front of me what should I do? At first I tried to ignore it. Truth is most people don’t get it. It’s so much a part of our culture people have a hard time understanding why it’s so important. I’d tell myself, “They don’t really mean it the way it sounds.” It wasn’t until one day at work that someone asked me if I “rode the short bus” that it finally sunk in. If I don’t say something, they’ll continue to use it without knowing why I think they shouldn’t. If I say something, without getting belligerent, and they choose to ignore me, then that’s on them. That’s when they get eliminated from “my space.”
I challenge myself, and all of us really, to create a “hate free” space. After all, I believe in the old saying, “If you don’t have anything nice to say, don’t say anything at all.” (At least in front of me.)